It’s Lonely at the Top

You’ve started a business. Things are running smoothly, you’re drawing in customers and your employees are happy. Things are going great! Or are they? While everyone around you may be thriving, you find yourself stuck in a hole. You feel stressed, pressured and alone – even though you have all these great people around you. So, what’s going on?

Sometimes, it can be lonely at the top. You may have never thought being an entrepreneur would lead to these feelings. As an entrepreneur, you had a dream to start a business, and you followed that dream until it became a reality. You believed in and trusted yourself. When there were successes, you had your team there to share in them with you. But when there were failures and setbacks, there weren’t as many people around to take them on.

These feelings of loneliness can come from a variety of sources. Maybe you feel lonely because you sit in your office all day working on the core of the business, while everyone else is interacting and working together. Maybe you know the nitty gritty details of your business, but realize you can’t share these details with your employees because they just won’t understand. In other words, you know your vision and goals for the business, but you just aren’t able to share with everyone.

This loneliness might impact other areas of your life as well. Maybe you’re spending too much time traveling for work, so you’re missing valuable time with your kids or family. Your social life could be suffering, and your friends might think you’ve fallen off the face of the Earth. The loneliness you are feeling can even have a negative impact on your health.

Although this loneliness may seem impossible to deal with, there are some ways to combat and manage these feelings.

  • Collaborate – Finding a way to collaborate with your employees, even if it’s just one day a week, can be extremely beneficial. Find ways to engage your employees in what it is you’re doing, so that they can get a better understanding. Having your employees working with you, rather than just for you, creates a new relationship that doesn’t leave you feeling isolated.
  • Self-Care – At the end of the day, you will always have yourself – so it’s important to remember to take care of yourself. Whether it be allowing yourself to relax in front of the TV at night, hitting the gym or volunteering, finding ways to take care of your mind and body outside of work can help you feel better all-around and push off those negative feelings of loneliness.
  • Consider Co-working – If you live and work in a town that has co-working space available, take advantage of it. Often times, other business owners, entrepreneurs and CEOs will be doing the same thing – and this can provide a place for you to work around like-minded people. You might meet people who are going through the same struggles as you, and you might be able to form a relationship that is beneficial to both of you. Working around others can help you find a support system that can help you through the struggles of loneliness.
  • Find an Advisor – Looking to a trusted business advisor may be one of the best ways to beat the woes of entrepreneurial loneliness. It’s likely that your business advisor has dealt with feelings similar to what you are feeling – so they can really truly understand what you’re dealing with and how to help you. Having a trusted advisor also takes some of the burden of decision making off your shoulders.
  • Peer Groups – You can seek out advice and mentorship from other people besides a business advisor. Consider joining a peer networking group that interests you and matches with your situation. This will give you access to a network of people who can be there for you during life’s struggles, but are also ready to celebrate life’s triumphs. Being a part of a peer group gives you access to people who won’t let you feel alone.

While being lonely at the top might be a struggle, it’s important to remember your business depends on you. With the right amount support and guidance, as well as remembering to take care of yourself, it’s possible to overcome the loneliness of being at the top.

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